In life, we can find ourselves not feeling good about ourselves. Quite often, it is merely the company you keep.
When first attracting this kind of company, they may present something that appears to be a positive addition to your life. As time passes, you may realize the company was only intrigued by you because they knew you would always be their sounding board. You were the person they always turned to because no matter what, you dropped everything to listen with empathy. You were happy to connect and introduce them to improve their lives, careers, and overall happiness. You may have even been an eager seat filler as their audience to cheer them on for support.
Then, you may experience legitimate problems because sometimes in life, this happens. You may need time to collect your thoughts. You may even hope the company you keep would merely listen, understand, appreciate, and uplift you because you have done that all for them and then some. But to them, you may now be considered too dramatic. Maybe it’s because you suddenly do not have the energy to help them. Maybe you suddenly don’t have the time to connect them socially. Maybe you’re exhausted and need some alone time for yourself. Your “friends” may eventually judge, ridicule, slander, and label you as something you are not—something you start to believe you are.
At times, all of us in life may need professional support to find the answers within. But sometimes the answer is merely taking a good look at the company you keep. That company may have never believed in you in the first place. They may have helped you a little initially because they knew you would go above and beyond for them in the long run. They may have treated you like a doormat and always expected you to be there for them. They may have put you down in a way that no one else notices. They may have simply had the intention of using you only to benefit themselves. On top of all that, they may rely on materialism and social status to validate their self-worth. That is not the company that you need to keep. That is a self-absorbed company that will eventually make you feel worthless, sad, and angry and will blame you for everything.
When you experience this kind of trauma, it may be hard for others to consider your own company that has likely become unbearable to have around. Continuing to remain upset by the actions of self-serving people can only hold you back from developing healthy relationships. Do not feel ashamed. It’s not your fault that this happened. It’s just up to you to recognize, comprehend, and take appropriate actions for your inner-peace. When you realize this, you get the awakening opportunity to work on yourself and make room for authentic connections that appreciate the real you. We all have to take responsibility for what we let into our lives. And guess what, we can! That is not being selfish. It is merely coming to terms with our self-value and learning from our mistakes. It’s okay to allow the people not healthy for you to fade away so you can allow everything that works for you to enter your life.
Know your self-worth and make room for trustworthy people. Because the more you surround yourself with the kind of company you deserve, the better you will feel about yourself and your life.